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Natsune oki talks about How to create a long-lasting relationship

Sex is the entire purpose of life - because that’s how all lives begin.

What an interesting sentence isn’t it? But really, Isn’t having a fulfilling relationship important in life? It is to me!

February is Valentine’s month!

So I thought to myself, this is a good time to talk about relationships!

So what do I know about relationships? I have to confess, not a lot! But I value building a meaningful relationship and having a deep connection with a partner.

Now, I’d have to ask myself “what do I want to know about relationships?”

I want to know how to create a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship, so I did my research and found this video and here are some things I learned about what happens in our brains when we fall in love and how we can create a long-lasting fulfilling relationship with someone.

Neuroscience of falling in love

When thinking about passionate and romantic love, dopamine goes up in our brains.

“ Dopamine is essentially the neurotransmitter of reward. So it is a neurotransmitter that's released when you have a new or novel experience, but particularly experiences that are reinforcing….Like gambling. Or something that is really addictive. In fact, literally addictive. It's the neurotransmitter if you snorted cocaine that is most responsible for, wow, that was great, and I totally wanna do it again. So that is a neurotransmitter that definitely goes up when you are in the throes of romantic or passionate love.”

There is another neurotransmitter, called serotonin that goes up. This is a neurotransmitter that activates obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression.

“Do we become depressed? - No. But what we’d do instead is to think about the partner over and over again and feel addicted to them to the point where you want to be with them if they are taken away from you.”

There are changes in other neurotransmitters too. When we have sex with our partner and have orgasm specifically, the neurotransmitter oxytocin, which is known as the cuddle neurotransmitter, makes you feel warm, and snuggly, and intensely bonded to the other person. This makes you feel very attached to the person and exceedingly intimate with them.

And the other is called Vasopressin, which has to do with stress level. So together, with the changes in oxytocin and Vasopressin, we’d feel extremely intimate with our partner at the same time stressed about being obsessed with them.